If you can restrict the other fellows movement without limiting your own – you win. If you connect too tightly to an you will shut down his movement but at the cost of your own as well, thus giving you no real . Obviously if you're too loosely connected your opponent will simply away from your . The happy middle is to tightly connect to one important part of your opponent's , perhaps the head/shoulders or the hips, but leave some slack elsewhere. This will enable you to restrict your opponent's movement but leave enough slack for your own body to move freely around the opponent's immobilized body.