Breaking connection: The entire game of grappling is based on grip and connection – without those it would all be impossible. It stands to reason then, that in a competitive game where both of you want to establish grip and connection in order to win, to grip and connection is a very important . You don't want to turn into a negative player who only tries to an opponents game with no concern for positive play leading towards victory – that's definitely not the spirit you want to approach the game. Nonetheless we have to be realistic and understand that there will definitely be times you need to break potentially dangerous grips opponents have gotten on you in order to shut down their encroaching attacks. In and judo the grip breaks are almost always centered on the HANDS, but in Jiu jitsu you'll need to break grips of both the hands AND feet, since many of the most important grip/connection come from guard positions. When you feel an opponent getting a grip that gives them more control over you than you're comfortable with – stop what you're doing for a moment and break the grip before going back to your positive attacking game